If you blog, have you ever worked hard on a post, really put your all into it, only to feel it was completely lost in the shuffle and never thought of again?
Well, I decided to look back on 2011 and dig up some of my favorite posts that disappeared into the ether I hope you'll check one or all of them out when you have a moment!
July--Beautiful Bedrooms--If anything inspires you to re-decorate your bedroom, it will be these gorgeous pictures.
August--When I Went to a British School--I reminisce about attending a British school in Beirut, Lebanon, when my parents were missionaries in the mid-60's.
September-- Oh, How Pinteresting!--Yep, this was the year that I discovered Pinterest...probably the most gorgeous and informative place on the Internet. In this post, I display a variety of cool things I'd been seeing on the site.
October--I'm Finally Wearing More Scarves--I finally catch on to one of the more attractive trends of 2011 (and it's a trend that has staying power.)
November--Some of My Favorite Childhood Books--I celebrate National Young Reader's Day by reminiscing about some of my best-loved childhood reads.
...and according to halife.com, it's the observance of a couple of what my former radio co-host Darren Marlar used to call "Weird Holidays":
• Today is National Whiners' Day, a day dedicated to people who return Christmas gifts.
• Today is National Thank You Note Day. Go ahead, do it today before you forget
I actually didn't get a single gift that I'm going to have to return! And there are definitely some Thank You notes I'll be writing.
I don't feel like "the holidays" are quite over until after New Year's Day, so I'm still basking in a sort of holiday glow.
We're still in Normal, Illinois until later today. We came here to celebrate Christmas with my daughter Elizabeth, whose retail job required her to work both Christmas Eve and the day after Christmas.
So we just brought Christmas to her, and it has been wonderful!
How about you? Any "day after Christmas" plans? Well, I've got gift cards from Bath and Body Works and Macy's burning a hole in my pocket, so hasta luego! :)
Top: My husband Doug and me, my oldest son Jonathan and his wife Daylyn
Bottom: My son Justin, my daughter Elizabeth and me; Doug and me with our grandson, Josiah and Payton
Many thanks to those of you who read my blog! My Christmas prayer for you is that you may experience the incomparable loveand amazing grace of theChristof Christmas, and that you may be showered with love and blessings throughout the coming year!
Take a few minutes to enjoy this beautiful song...
The other night one of my sisters-in-law admitted that she has never seen "It's A Wonderful Life." I was aghast.
This movie is an American institution. This movie is a Christmas tradition. This movie is not just my favorite Christmas movie, but actually my favorite movie EVER.
What do I love about this movie? Well, in no particular order:
--Jimmy Stewart
OK, Jimmy Stewart is just adorable. This quote in his 1997 New York Time obit sums up his appeal:
The lanky actor with unruly hair and an ungainly stride had a boyish grin and an engaging manner. The Stewart way of speaking -- laconic, with a hesitant, nasal drawl -- is instantly recognizable by virtually every American. His early screen image, like his personal life, epitomized a Middle American ideal in a confusing, sophisticated world.
And, he's cute. And I love the integrity and basic goodness of his character. He's just...adorable.
--Donna Reed
As the longsuffering Mary, who loves Stewart's George Bailey from afar and then graciously endures the trials of being his wife, Donna Reed is wonderful. Early on, it's obvious she wants George and she's going to get him...but she does it in such a subtle way, he doesn't even know he's caught until the awesome moment they kiss while sharing a telephone receiver.
You don't get the idea Mary is a doormat. She's just a woman who is admirably full of the grace that is so essential in being a spouse.
There's a luminous glow and wholesome sweetness about Donna Reed as Mary. She's lovely.
--The special effects. No, I'm just kidding!!!
OK, the special effects are really quite awful. That star thing where the angels are apparently talking to each other? So incredibly primitive. But hey, this is 1946! Roll with it. They're so bad they're strangely sweet.
And I don't care...it still touches my heart to hear the prayers of all of George's friends.
--The message.
The idea of exploring how the world would be a different place if one single person hadn't been born is one definitely worth pondering, and it definitely fits in with a Christian worldview.
"Perhaps the biggest lesson we learn from this film is that we all have an impact on those around us. As Clarence the guardian angel said, “Strange, isn’t it? Each man’s life touches so many other lives. When he isn’t around, he leaves an awful hole, doesn’t he?”
We all live a life of significance and it’s important we remember that even the little things we do have a tremendous impact on others."
What kind of an impact am I making on the lives of those around me? How would their lives be different if I wasn't around?
--The payoff.
Like most really good movies, "It's A Wonderful Life" has a wonderful emotional pay-off.
The moment after George realizes he wants to live, and the snow starts falling and Zuzu's petals are in his pocket...well, it doesn't get much better than that when it comes to cinematic pay-offs.
You want to run through the streets with George, screaming and hollering for joy.
Life may be tough. Life is often tragic and sad and inexplicable. But as Clarence says, "Remember no man is a failure who has friends."
About this time of year, my blog stats start to explode with people looking for information on Evie Tornquist Karlsson's beloved Christmas music, particularly the song "Come On, Ring Those Bells."
As a radio personality, I was able to interview Evie at least twice. The most recent interview, a few years ago, was available to listen to on a ftp site that, unfortunately, no longer exists.
The earliest interview was in 2004, and I think it's worth revisiting because even the transcript manages to capture the delightful personality of this very talented and beloved artist. Here it is:
CINDY: A couple of years ago, I mentioned a certain singer in an article I wrote on my website about my favorite Christmas music. Amazingly, I found that many of the hits on my website were consistently from people looking for information about that singer. That singer is Evie Tornquist Karlsson, and I'm so delighted to have you as my guest today.
EVIE: (laughing) Thank you so much, Cindy, and we're still ringing those bells after all these years!
CINDY: Well, you know, it's almost surreal actually talking to you, because I can remember that when I was student at Baptist Bible College in Springfield, Missouri, way back in the 1970's, I almost wore out your "Mirror" album.
I loved every song on that album, I just about memorized the whole thing. Also, half the guys at my college were in love with you, so I was even a little jealous of you, and can't believe I'm actually talking to Evie!...
You know, I want to recap your career and of course update people on what you're doing now, but first I need to ask you about something that apparently is still huge...and that is the Christmas song, "Come On, Ring Those Bells."
Most of the hits that I get on my website that are looking for info on you specifically often contain the phrase "Come On, Ring Those Bells"--people wanting to get the lyrics, the guitar tabs, find out where they can get the sheet music, whatever.
Tell me, first of all, how you came to record that song?
EVIE: Well, it was back in the mid-70's, when the folks at Word Records were helping me put together the very first Christmas album that we did.
We did two with them, and this was the first one...and just like in every other situation, the A and R people,whose specific job it is find music that sort of makes sense for the different artists to do, they bring just a big briefcase over with demos and chord charts and we just take several days and look over them.
And I knew I wanted to do some of the older traditional songs like "O Holy Night" and "Silent Night" and "O Little Town of Bethlehem," and such, but we also needed some fresh new things. And so, which was sort of uncharacteristic for record companies back then,they pitched a song called "Come On, Ring Those Bells" to me which was not part of their roster.
They went to Manna Music, which was another Christian publishing company, and got this song "Come On, Ring Those Bells," written by Andrew Culverwell, and played it for me, and said, "What do you think?" And I immediately loved the song. I thought it had such a great combination of zeroing in first of all on what the season truly is all about, and that is it's Jesus birthday, it's our time to celebrate Him, and keep the focus on Him.
But it also had a very folksy way of applying this to all of us, y'know: (singing)
"Everybody likes to take a holiday/ everybody likes to take a rest/ spending time together with the family/ Sharing lots of love and happiness...."
All of us could listen to that and say, "Oh, yeah...that's absolutely right. And let's, come on, let's ring the bells of Christmas, and remember that Jesus, we remember this is YOUR birthday." And it just had a wonderful arrangement...and I think it was just something that obviously the Lord wanted to have that be embraced the way it was. It was His plan from the get-go, we just got to be part of it and watch it happen.
The background vocals are done by a lady who is a very well-known country artist herself in her own right, by the name of Janie Fricke.
CINDY: Oh my goodness, really?
EVIE: Janie Fricke is the gal who got two other young women together and did the background vocals for that entire Christmas album. But the "Come On Ring those bells" tune is where you can really hear her beautiful voice.
CINDY: Now that is a little bit of trivia that I had never heard before, Evie. Now, why do you think that it has so endured, obviously stood the test of time?
Enduring appeal
EVIE: Oh, I haven't a clue, Cindy, other than...I don't know, perhaps at that very moment in the mid-70's, contemporary Christian music was in its early stages. There were many of us that were trying to sort of push the envelope a little bit, within reason, not get people upset with us...but sort of bring Christian music to a kind of grassroots, folksy, embraceable way. Because, the purpose here for what we do what we do, and I'm sure it's the same with you, Cindy...is we want to introduce people to the Lord Jesus Christ.
CINDY: Absolutely.
EVIE: And whether it takes a website or a blog or a radio program or a song or a book or words over the fence with our neighbors, that's the whole purpose of why we're here.
So, to do music then, that would be easily embraced by those who perhaps aren't in church on a regular basis....perhaps those who would rather hear an album with Janie Fricke than a Christian singer. I suppose, maybe at that very moment there was sort of an open ear for it, and then as in most cases with holiday music and holiday traditions, something occurs within our hearts. It brings back warm, wonderful memories...And you know how they say the smell or the scent is a very strong memory with us--well, I think Christmas memories are also a tremendous trigger.
CINDY: That is very true. And I also think this song really lends itself well to being sung by children's choirs and children's groups...
EVIE: Sure.
CINDY: There's nothing that sounds as cute as a bunch of little voices singing this song, and I've heard it many times. But the question, Evie, that I've got to ask you is, can people still ahold of the Christmas album that it's on, or can they get ahold of the sheet music or the lyrics...is that available out there?
EVIE: Well, I have to be perfectly honest and say that I really don't know the best answer to that question. We did, or rather Word did a "Christmas Memories" CD about four or five years ago, and included a few new songs as well as "Come On, Ring Those Bells." But to my understanding, that is now out of print.
CINDY: Well let me put my vote in right now, and I'm sure a lot of people will agree with me, for you to make another Christmas album, Evie. I think it's time.
I used Random.org to come up with a winner for my Shabby Apple give-away! And the winner is:
Melody Steiner
Melody is the winner of the gorgeous Pineapple Princess dress from Shabby Apple. I'll give Melody's e-mail address to Shabby Apple, and she'll be hearing from them to arrange the details of receiving her dress.
THANKS SO MUCH to Shabby Apple and everyone who entered the contest. Hopefully I'll have another contest soon!
REMINDER: Don't forget to scroll down and enter my Shabby Apple Dress give-away...contests ends at the end of December 19th!
For the first time ever, none of my kids are coming home for Christmas.
I would really be depressed about this if not for a few things:
--We're taking Christmas to my daughter in Normal, Illinois, because she works retail and will have to work on Christmas Eve and the day after Christmas. I know we'll have a wonderful Christmas with Elizabeth.
--I got to spend two weeks around Thanksgiving with my other children and many of my loved ones. Some of them came up for Thanksgiving and I rode back to Texas with them and spent another week. So although I can never get enough of them, at least I've recently gotten to be with them.
--We'll celebrate Swanson Family Christmas with all of Doug's brothers and their families on December 22nd.
Anyway, because we won't be having any company, I didn't go all out with decorating for Christmas. For the past few years, our tree has been mostly burgundy and gold, but I bring out all the ornaments with special meaning from my kids' childhood, many of them handmade, some by them.
This year, I just decided to do it all in gold and white, and it's really pretty. A nice change, although I'm sure I'll go back to the more traditional tree in the future.
I just though I'd share a few pictures of my gold and white Christmas.
I am SO excited to be hosting my first give-away of a dress from Shabby Apple, an online boutique of women's dresses!
Here's a bit about the company:
Shabby Apple is a vintage dress boutique specializing in women’s dresses, casual dresses, skirts, and women’s apparel as well as preteen and little girls dresses. They also offer maternity clothing, aprons, jewelry, accessories, and more. At Shabby Apple, they recognize that finding the perfect dress can be challenging, which is why they strive to design highly fashionable dresses for all types of women. Whether you’re looking for evening dresses, blouses, or the perfect skirt, Shabby Apple will have something that is right for you!
I'm giving away the gorgeous dress you see above, the Pineapple Princess. Spring may seem far away, but once we get past Christmas, it'll be here before you know it!
One lucky Notes in the Key of Life winner will receive that dress!
--After checking out the Shabby Apple site, you must let me know in my comments section which item on their site is your favorite
For bonus entries (enter a separate comment for each one you do):
--Follow me on Google Friend Connect or Networked Blogs --Like my blog's Facebook page --Tweet about this give-away, providing a link to this blog
This giveaway ends Monday, December 19, 2011, at 11:59pm Central time. This giveaway is open to US residents only – Sorry! Be sure to enter a valid email address otherwise I won’t be able to contact you if you are the winner. Winner will be chosen via a random number generator. If the winner does not contact me within 48 hours, a new winner will be chosen. Good luck!
Saturday was my birthday. And while I don't relish the idea of admitting to being another year into middle age, it's a lot better than the alternative :), and I'm just shallow enough to enjoy being made a fuss over on my special today.
Hubby came through. He took me out to a lovely brunch at one of my favorite eateries, Egg Harbor. A high school musical ensemble was there, serenading the diners with gorgeous Christmas carols.
Afterwards, we went to the mall and he bought me what I asked for: a bottle of Estee Lauder Sensuous Nude perfume, and the blockbuster make-up kit that's an Estee Lauder Christmas season special.
As I get older, it's even more important to me that my make-up look pretty, appropriate but as enhancing as possible. I'm a make-up junkie, so I'm like a kid in a candy store with this kit!
Not shown in the picture is another sweet little bag that looks like a clutch (it would be perfect for a Christmas party), an assortment of make-up brushes and a pretty purse mirror.
My family in Texas had already celebrated my birthday when I was there a week ago, so I had a really wonderful birthday this year.
Another year older, I'm even more committed to be the very best woman-of-a-certain-age that I can be...and one of the things that has been helping me lately is following the bloggers who take part in Visible Monday, hosted by Not Dead Yet Style. Check out the fabulous participants!
(Oh, a quick word about what I wore. The beautiful and comfortable gray V-neck sweater is from the Ann Taylor outlet in the Round Rock Outlet Mall. The scarf is from one of my favorite accessories places, Charming Charlie's. Love!)
A little late to the party today, but I'm participating in Pink and Green Thursday, hosted by Pink Preppy Lilly Lover! Since pink is my favorite color, I always enjoy this meme...and today I've decided to bring a little Christmas to the mix. Enjoy!
All right, you know me. I never met a cosmetics counter I didn't like. So imagine my delight when I found (well, actually was directed to by my sister) two awesome discount cosmetics stores at the Outlet Mall while visiting in Round Rock, Texas.
You have to be careful with these outlet stores...sometimes their prices are just a fraction less than they would be ordinarily. Just as with other shopping, hit the clearance racks and you can get some amazing deals!
One store was mainly devoted to Lancome products. There, I found a Tresor in Love gift package that, after 50 per cent off the outlet price, came to a little more than 20 dollars. It includes a 1.7 oz. bottle of Tresor in Love (which smells absolutely yummy), and 1.7 ounce tubes of lotion and shower gel.
I also got a Lancome Renergie night moisturizer (sorry I don't have the correct name--it was too big for carry-on, so my mom is sending it to me) that is 93 dollars in department stores. At 65 per cent off outlet price, it was also not much more than 20 bucks.
My sister has used this and says it's absolutely wonderful. She's crazy about Lancome skin care products, and only gets them at this outlet...which she says often has even better deals than the ones I found!
Also at the Lancome outlet, I got my husband a good-sized bottle of Armani Diamonds for Men after-shave for only 10 dollars on a 75 per cent off table.
The other outlet store featured mostly Estee Lauder, Clinique and MAC. I got a MAC loose powder and a MAC blush. I can't remember exactly how much I paid for them, but I'm in love with both products. (Believe it or not, it was the first time I've ever purchased MAC cosmetics, although I've bought their amazing Turquatic cologne.)
We currently don't have an outlet mall where I live. If I lived in Round Rock, I think I would be addicted to those cosmetics stores!
I've been having so much fun visiting family here in Texas! Tonight, my family is going to celebrate my birthday early (it's actually December 10th), I get to eat at my favorite Mexican restaurant (Chuy's), and have cake and ice cream.
Tomorrow, I'm excited to be the speaker at the ladies' Christmas Brunch at my family's church, Faith Baptist in Round Rock.
I'm also going to be making this wonderful casserole. It couldn't be easier to make, and it turns out absolutely delicious!
French Toast Casserole
1 1/2 stick of Butter
1 1/2 cups of Brown Sugar
Cinnamon
1 Loaf of Bread
2 cups of Milk
6 eggs
Melt 1 1/2 sticks of butter
Stir in 1 1/2 cups of brown sugar and a dash of cinnamon to make a paste substance
pour into bottom of a 9 1/2 X 13 pan
Cut crust off of bread (give crust to birds :))
Align bread in pan making 2 layers
In a separate bowl mix 2 cups of milk
1 tsp. of cinnamon
6 eggs
Pour mixture over bread in pan; cover and refrigerate overnight.
Bake at 350 degrees for 30 minutes; till top has raised a bit and looks brown.
OK, so I'm late for The Vintage Apple's Oh How Pinteresting Wednesday, but I'm going to go ahead and share some of the cool things I've seen on Pinterest lately. (What is Pinterest? Basically it's an online collection board where you can "pin" and "re-pin" photos, images, recipes, ideas...you name it. It's a treasure trove!)
“My goal for I Love To Write Day is to have people of all ages spend time writing,” says John Riddle, Founder. “They can write a poem, a love letter, a greeting card, an essay, a short story, start a novel, finish a novel…the possibilities are endless. But I want people to take the time to put their thoughts down on paper. They will be amazed at the results. Writing can be fun, but also challenging. People need to be challenged, and writing is but one of many creative ways to express yourself. I am very excited because I Love To Write Day activities are already being planned all across the United States. When people become stronger writers,they become better communicators, and everyone wins.”
I have always loved to write--it's almost as natural to me as breathing. That's one of the reasons I love to blog. So this is a day I can definitely get behind!
I encourage you to write something today. In the meantime, here are some images and quotes to celebrate the day!
"It is necessary to write, if the days are not to slip emptily by. How else, indeed, to clap the net over the butterfly of the moment? For the moment passes, it is forgotten; the mood is gone; life itself is gone. That is where the writer scores over his fellows: he catches the changes of his mind on the hop." ~Vita Sackville-West
“From a thank-you note to the sonnets of Shakespeare, writing reveals the things of our hearts. Through writing we share everything from our summer vacations to fictional worlds filled with wonder. We write from the depths of our heart, the edge of our funny bone, and every place in between. And the only prerequisite is that you do it from your own heart. Even in our technology-driven world, writing keeps us connected and provides a conduit for our creativity.”--Thomas Smith
(OK, first off, don't laugh at me for another self-taken picture in my car! This time with my seatbelt on, no less!) This usually happens because my make-up is freshly done, I'm getting ready to leave for work, and somehow the lighting tends to be good. Whatever works, you know?
All right...to the subject of eye shadow and sometimes breaking the rules.
The make-up Powers That Be will often tell you:
--not to wear eye shadow that matches the color of your eyes
--not to wear eye shadow that matches what you're wearing
--older women should only wear neutral eye shadows
On this occasion, I brazenly did all these no-no's, and I liked it fine!
I resisted the urge to photo-shop so I could realistically show you what these colors looked like, by the way.
Also, note to self (I'm still learning...), next time, take a picture of your eyes CLOSED as well.
Here's what I did:
--used a tiny angled brush to apply Clinique eye shadow in "slate" to define my eyebrows
--applied Elf eyelid primer to my entire above-eye area (more on primer in a moment!)
--brushed Estee Lauder matte eye-shadow in "sandbar beige" over entire above-eye area---this sets the primer and gives you a nice canvas for the rest of your shadow look
--applied Ulta eye shadow in "envy" in eye crease and outer corners of the lid, blending carefully
--went over the crease with Clinique "slate" eye shadow, blending carefully
--applied Elf cream eyeliner in "gunmetal" above the upper eyelashes
--lightly went over the eyeliner with Clinique "slate" eye shadow to set it
--below the "water line," applied Ulta Kohl Eyeliner Pencil in "emerald"
--lightly went over that with Ulta eyeshadow in "envy" to set it
--applied Estee Lauder black mascara in "Sumptuous" both on top and bottom lashes
(I know it sounds lengthy, but it actually doesn't take that long to do.)
Yes, there are some eye shadow rules that older women should not regularly break. For instance, highly frosted and shimmery shadows are best avoided or kept to a minimum (I do use them sometimes, sparingly.)
And remember, blend, blend, blend. You want to avoid a "striped" look at all costs!
But some rules are made to be broken. Do it with class and discretion, but take a chance every once in a while!
OK, about primer
If you haven't yet discovered primer, let me introduce you to what will become one of your best cosmetic friends!
As you've already surmised, I'm a make-up girl. I pretty much never step out of the house without a full face of it.
For years, though, I was a prisoner to constant touch-ups. It just never stayed the way I wanted it to! Eye shadow gathering in the crease...smudges left and right...my face make-up needing regular touch-ups as well. A pain!
When I started watching YouTube beauty tutorials, I learned about primer. Primer assures that you can put your make-up on in the morning, and by noon it looks pretty much the same as it did when you stepped out!
On my eyelid, I usually just use Elf eyelid primer. It costs ONE DOLLAR at Target (and some other locations.) I usually go over that with a matte color that's close to my own skin color. The rest of my eye make-up then stays on beautifully.
There are other, more expensive eyelid primers, but Elf works fine for me.
On my face, prior to putting on my foundation, I usually use Rimmel Fix and Perfect Pro. It's not expensive, you can get it at most drugstores, and it makes a world of difference.
I'm not sure who actually wrote this tribute to veterans, but it is definitely worth taking a moment to read. Thank a veteran today!
Some veterans bear visible signs of their service: a missing limb, a jagged scar, a certain look in the eye.
Others may carry the evidence inside them: a pin holding a bone together, a piece of shrapnel in the leg - or perhaps another sort of inner steel: the soul's ally forged in the refinery of adversity.
Except in parades, however, the men and women who have kept America safe wear no badge or emblem.
You can't tell a vet just by looking.
He is the cop on the beat who spent six months in Saudi Arabia sweating two gallons a day making sure the armored personnel carriers didn't run out of fuel.
He is the barroom loudmouth, dumber than five wooden planks, whose overgrown frat-boy behavior is outweighed a hundred times in the cosmic scales by four hours of exquisite bravery near the 38th parallel.
She is the nurse who fought against futility and went to sleep sobbing every night for two solid years in Da Nang.
He is the POW who went away one person and came back another - or didn't come back AT ALL.
He is the Quantico drill instructor who has never seen combat - but has saved countless lives by turning slouchy, no-account rednecks and gang members into Marines, and teaching them to watch each other's backs.
He is the parade - riding Legionnaire who pins on his ribbons and medals with a prosthetic hand.
He is the career quartermaster who watches the ribbons and medals pass him by.
He is the three anonymous heroes in The Tomb Of The Unknowns, whose presence at the Arlington National Cemetery must forever preserve the memory of all the anonymous heroes whose valor dies unrecognized with them on the battlefield or in the ocean's sunless deep.
He is the old guy bagging groceries at the supermarket - palsied now and aggravatingly slow - who helped liberate a Nazi death camp and who wishes all day long that his wife were still alive to hold him when the nightmares come.
He is an ordinary and yet an extraordinary human being - a person who offered some of his life's most vital years in the service of his country, and who sacrificed his ambitions so others would not have to sacrifice theirs.
He is a soldier and a savior and a sword against the darkness, and he is nothing more than the finest, greatest testimony on behalf of the finest, greatest nation ever known.
So remember, each time you see someone who has served our country, just lean over and say Thank You. That's all most people need, and in most cases it will mean more than any medals they could have been awarded or were awarded.
Two little words that mean a lot, "THANK YOU".
"It is the soldier, not the reporter, Who has given us freedom of the press. It is the soldier, not the poet, Who has given us freedom of speech. It is the soldier, not the campus organizer, Who has given us the freedom to demonstrate. It is the soldier, Who salutes the flag, Who serves beneath the flag, and whose coffin is draped by the flag, who allows the protestor to burn the flag."
Such was the staggering fame and notoriety of Marilyn Monroe, that even my Sunday School teacher mentioned her as a sort of cautionary tale the Sunday after she died.
I was only 5 and a half years old, but I clearly remember my teacher pointing out that riches and fame had not brought Marilyn Monroe happiness...that she had killed herself despite all that.
I must admit, I've been curious about this legendary sex symbol/icon for some time. I've only watched a couple of her movies, but if you grew up a latter-fringe baby boomer as I did, Marilyn Monroe--even dead--was just there.
Even now, there are myriads of blogs, many of them by young people, devoted to iconic images of the movie star.
As Elton John famously sang about her in "Candle in the Wind," her "candle burned out long before her legend ever did."
I picked up Donald Spoto's Marilyn Monroe: The Biography somewhat at random at my public library. Turns out, I probably picked the least sensationalized, earnestly-endeavoring-to-be-accurate Marilyn bio out there.
Spoto presents a detailed, factual account of Marilyn's life. Apparently, to gain sympathetic publicity, she exaggerated the poverty and pitifulness of her early life--but the truth is bad enough.
Norma Jeane Baker (her real name, as most people know), never knew who her father was--it could have been any number of her mother's boyfriends. That mother, Gladys, was an unreliable and infrequent visitor in Marilyn's childhood, showing up occasionally to whisk her away from her foster family and then disappear again.
As Spoto relates, her entire early life was characterized by being regularly abandoned by the people who mattered most to her and who she most wanted to please.
As a teen-aged Norma Jeane Baker, Marilyn married 21-year-old Jimmy Dougherty to escape the orphanage where she'd been living. The marriage was short-lived as she became popular as a model and hungered for stardom
Spoto seems to almost minimize two disturbing childhood incidents of sexual molestation--one by a trusted surrogate father, the other by a boy around her own age. But there's no doubt that the magnitude of these incidents can't be ignored when it comes to their lifelong impact on her.
As far as conspiracy theories about her death--that the FBI killed her, the mob killed her, Kennedy cronies killed her to hush her up--Spoto convinced me that these were all pretty much rubbish.
Far from carrying on any liasons with the Kennedy brothers (Spoto does admit to at least one physical encounter between Marilyn and JFK; none with Bobby)--at the time of Marilyn's death, she was happily planning remarriage to baseball star Joe DiMaggio--the one man in her life who really seemed to love her. (That despite the fact that during their marriage years earlier, his extreme jealousy and hair-trigger temper caused him to physically abuse her.)
Marilyn and Joe DiMaggio. He never talked about her after her death, but for 20 years afterward, he had flowers placed on her grave every week
Spoto also convinces me that Marilyn did NOT commit suicide...but that a lethal cocktail of accumulated drugs, administered by her controlling and unethical psychiatrist, actually did the deed unintentionally.
Despite my disapproval of Marilyn Monroe's lifestyle, choices, exhibitionism, whatever--this book left me with a profound sympathy for her. Here was a beautiful girl, actually smart and talented beyond what her dumb-blonde image often portrayed, who was completely unable to find joy in her short life.
Dying at 36, still in the prime of her beauty, she will remain forever young in the many iconic images of her that still circulate perpetually.
I don't think Marilyn Monroe committed suicide, but my Sunday School teacher was right about one thing.
If you blog, have you ever worked hard on a post, really put your all into it, only to feel it was completely lost in the shuffle and never thought of again?
