Sunday, October 19, 2014

Gracefully Aging, Day 19: Wise Words












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Saturday, October 18, 2014

Gracefully Aging, Day 18: Christie Brinkley's Anti-Aging Tips (some may surprise you!)

Christie Brinkley posing with her daughter Sailor

It's hard to believe that supermodel Christie Brinkley turned 60 years old in February 2014.  She's still gorgeous, and if she's had any "work done," it's certainly not obvious!  Plus her figure is still swimsuit-worthy by anyone's standards.

A recent Huffington Post article culled some quotes from Christie from around the web.  Here are a few of her anti-aging tips...and as I said, one or two may surprise you.



Smile.  Christie recently told Prevention Magazine, "The mere act of putting your lips in that position tells your body to release chemicals that instantly make you feel better."

(I totally agree with this, and I firmly believe smiling can take years off your face.)

Hair extensions. Christie told HuffPost style that she wears 16-inch clip-in hair extensions almost every day. According to the article, "Brinkley uses the hair pieces to add body and highlights to her thinning locks, which instantly reverses the signs of aging hair."

"I think of it as a choice," she's quoted as saying.  "Do I want to put in the time or do I just want to put in the hair? Literally, it's just click, click, click,"

Eat sensibly, but allow yourself the occasional treat. "Go ahead and have the Kit Kat at the movies. If you don't satisfy an urge sometimes, you often substitute less-satisfying things and end up eating more."  She does believe in eating three meals a day, and says she snacks on things like melon and nuts.

Make working out fun.  Christie works out regularly, but she believes in changing things up often to avoid boredom.

Exfoliate daily.  She told People Magazine, "I’ve done it since I read that guys look years younger because they shave,"

When she was featured in People Magazine shortly before her 60th birthday, Brinkley wrote on Instagram; "I never would would have imagined this is how I would be celebrating my 60th …But Thank you PEOPLE Magazine for hopefully sending the message that with proper diet , exercise ,and joie de vie, every Birthday is cause for Celebration!”

Sounds like a good philosophy to me!




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Friday, October 17, 2014

Gracefully Aging, Day 17 : A Responsiblity to Mentor Part 2

My older sister and my late mom...two of my most precious mentors
In my last post, I talked about the importance of older women sharing their wisdom with younger women in the form of teaching and/or mentoring.

I had asked this question on Facebook:

Ladies, is there a woman older than you that you look up to as a mentor, role model or inspiration? Who is she and why?

Here are more of the replies I received:

Sherry:  My mom has always been there for me through my losses and gains. I love her so much.

Renata:  My mom, Debra. She is an independent, hard working, compassionate, loving, giving, intelligent person. She is my inspiration to be a stronger, wiser person.

Gail:  It's funny that you would ask this question. I have a lady who became an inspiration to me back in 1982 in Washington, D. C. She was my employer for about 3 years. Unfortunately, I did not remain in touch with her over the years. But, I thought of her many times and spoke of her quite often. With the help of modern technology, I've been able to reconnect with her on Facebook after all these years. She relocated to Colorado.

The lady I'm so proud to speak of is someone I'd rather not reveal her name at this time without having her permission. She is now in her 80's. I have told her on Facebook how important she has been to me over the years. She became my employer at a quasi governmental agency in Washington, D. C. She also happened to be from the South. I was hired to be an Administrative Assistant and was compensated generously during my employment.

I found my employer to be an awesome lady. She was professional in every sense of the word. Not only was she gorgeous, but she was amazing. She believed in her faith and was also health conscious. She was married and had children. She led our agency with unbelieveable commitment and passion concerning the education of children. We presented information to the Governor of Maryland. I was involved in producing a published report of our findings which I still have. I was even named in the credits.

My employer not only stayed focused on our mission, but she also showed concern for my well being. If I were sick, she'd bring me rice pudding. She would bring fresh cut flowers for my desk. She instilled in me a desire to be professional in every way that became a part of who I am today. She also provided me the paid opportunity for continuing education. One of those classes was concerning understanding the U. S. Congress.

Kathy:  Mine has been in heaven several years. She prayed for me and sent notes of encouragement.

Tina: My Mom! Her love for the Lord, & her servant's heart!

Is there such a woman in your life? Or maybe you have been able to mentor and encourage a younger woman? Tell me in my comments!

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Thursday, October 16, 2014

Gracefully Aging, Day 16: A Responsibility to Mentor

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Has an older woman been especially helpful in your life as a mentor, encourager, and/or inspiration?

I believe that one of the greatest benefits of growing older is the wealth of wisdom we accrue simply by living and learning from our experiences.  We have more practical wisdom in that regard simply because we have the benefit of years compared to our younger female friends.

Check out Titus 2:4 on what the Bible has to say on older women teaching younger women.  It's pretty clear.

Patti M. Hummel writes:

"Today’s young women today are caught up in the whirlwind of life in a way that no generation before had a clue about. These young women are bombarded with schedules and business that some of us older women cannot imagine. Whatever happened to those evenings that were spent sitting on the front porch talking with neighbors while the children played under the stars until they were ready to drop? Whatever happened to quiet evenings at home?

"...There are many wonderful things we can do ... that add joy and encouragement to the lives of others, particularly younger women. The most important thing we can do to provide hope and refreshment to the souls of younger women is praying for and with them."


My sweet mom, who passed away in November 2013, was my greatest mentor.  The wealth of teaching and encouragement she gave me is priceless.

I asked this question on Facebook:

Ladies, is there a woman older than you that you look up to as a mentor, role model or inspiration? Who is she and why?

Here are some of the answers I got:

Ashley: My Aunt Mary! Everything she has been through in life and still has an amazing outlook on life and a great sense of humor! And now she is going to kick this breast cancer's butt!!

Ann:   My sister Jeanette.  Although she is only 4 years older she had been a source of inspiration to me always in the word, an excellent teacher, and has gone through many adversities. The loss of her son Kevin at the age of 42, and the caregiver of her husband Darrell whom because of her excellent care out lived his life time expectancies. And then going through the pain of his death yet still standing strong in The Lord.

Lori:  My mom, whose name is Pearl. She and dad were married 61 years before dad's death from COPD in June, 2013. Their marriage and life together was and is such a beautiful story! Mom is such a selfless, beautiful lady who lives her life for the Lord. She was dad's sole caregiver until Hospice stepped in and helped do what we couldn't. I wish everyone could be so blessed as we are to have her for a mom, grandma, and great-grandma.

Tammy:  There are several but my first choice would be Jan S. She has ALWAYS encouraged me as a wife and mom, she is a Godly lady who leads by example.
1. She serves The Lord, her husband, family, friends and others.
2. She is hospitable - many a time, I have heard her say, "You never know when you are hosting angels in unaware.".
3. She is a homemaker.
4. She is strong (surviving a near death experience fighting back from the grips of cancer). Boy, am I thankful to have her alive and healthy these past 4 years.
5. She laughs at herself, at you and with you.
6. She is wise (more than not when we don't know the answer to something we say, "Call Jan, she knows everything!".
7. She is kind, caring, loving, helpful, & friendly.
Jan is my mentor and inspiration. In my opinion, she is a Proverbs 31 woman

I'll share more of these Facebook replies in my next  post.



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Tuesday, October 14, 2014

Gracefully Aging, Day 15: Makeup--Is Less More?

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We've all heard and read the conventional wisdom: as you get older, wear less makeup.

Well...yes and no.

I think it depends on how much makeup you've actually been wearing all along.

  •  If you're accustomed to ladling it on with a trowel, yes, it's time to back off. 
  • If you favor exaggerated winged eyeliner, yes, it's time to back off.
  • If you usually sport thick, dark eyeliner under your eyes, then, yes, it's time to back off.


But if you've gone for years with a glorious natural look...maybe just a flick of mascara and some lip gloss, or even less...in my humble opinion, it may be time to wear MORE make-up.

SHOCKER!!! I can hear the gods of makeup sending up a keening wail of disapproval.

But yes.  You do have to BE CAREFUL about makeup, but I don't believe you have to dial it back to a bare minimum.

I actually believe makeup can be one of an older woman's best friends, GASP!

Here are my thoughts (and I'm not an expert, but I've been a makeup maven for many years).

Apply it with a light hand.  Yes, you could build up that eye-shadow to day-glo proportions, but instead, apply it lightly and strategically, and blend, blend, blend.

Be careful about anything glittery or sparkly.  Notice I did not say, as many experts will insist, to avoid sparkle completely.  But if I do use it, it's sparingly and not very often.

Use color on your lips! Notice my exclamation mark there.  Even the powers-that-be will tell you the importance of older women using color on their lips. As we get older, our lips tend to get thinner and lose natural color.

Experts disagree on what color is OK.  Some say only nude-beige lips, some say only pink, other say a woman of any age can wear red lips if they do it right.


Christie Brinkley sporting red lipstick at 59 (she's 60 now)
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Use color on your cheeks.  For the same reason it's important to use color on your lips.  We may not naturally have a youthful blush, but we can carefully apply one!  Always remember to blend it well, so it's not a just stripe of color on your face.  Many experts suggest switching to a cream blush.

Be careful about powder.  I think a light dusting of powder is necessary to seal your make-up and make it longlasting, but you have to be careful.  Try to avoid heavy powders that could settle into lines and make them more obvious.  A light dusting with brush, not a puff, is what I go for.

Discover highlighter/illuminators.  A highlighter will give you just that bit of extra glow.  You brush it gently on your upper cheeks and around your eyes.

I always use this drugstore one after reading about it in a magazine.  It's inexpensive and provides a lovely glow, especially nice in photographs.

My highlighter of choice: wetnwild MegaGlo Illuminating Powder in catwalk pink



Don't forget your lashes. Unfortunately, our eyelashes tend to get more sparse as we get older.  There are several ways to deal with this;

  • Use an eyelash curler.  I'll just be honest, this has never really seemed to make much difference for me, but some women and most makeup artists swear by them.
  • Consider eyelash extensions.  Google the pros and cons of extensions.  I've seen them on a few women and they frankly look wonderful.
  • Use an eyelash primer.  This goes on before you put on your mascara and really makes a difference in how your mascara performs.  My favorite is Lash Building Primer from Clinique.
  • Consider false eyelashes, at least on special occasions.  I do this on occasion and I have to say, I love the way they look!


Take expert advice with a grain of salt.  Whenever you hear/read a makeup expert saying older women should NEVER do this or that, consider how things work for you.

For example, many experts will tell older women NEVER to wear color on their eyes.  Sorry.  I'm not living the rest of my life with nothing but taupe eyeshadow. Boring! I even break another rule by sometimes coordinating my eyeshadow color with what I'm wearing

A look with green eye shadow

You have to honestly consider what works for you.  I take frequent selfies, most of which I don't share with anyone, just to check my look.  Sometimes a mirror is deceiving.  A selfie will usually tell you what to dial back and what's working.

Ultimately, it's YOUR face.  If you want to wear very minimal makeup or none at all, that's fine.  But I truly believe that most women, and definitely older women, could use some makeup.

Here is an article with some good suggestions for make-up for maturing women.  You don't have to take it as gospel, but it has some helpful advice.

What about you? Have you changed your makeup with the years? Let me know in my comments!


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Gracefully Aging, Day 14: The Anti-Aging Serum that's Freely Available


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Are you taking advantage of one of the best anti-aging serums out there---one that's as close as your kitchen tap?

Yes, I'm talking about water.

While experts say water isn't actually the fountain of youth, there's no denying the health AND anti-aging benefits of h2O.

Ths from Anti-Aging God's Way: "One of the benefits of drinking water is softer, moister skin. Loss of hydration in the skin shows in all sorts of ways - dryness, tightness, flakiness. Dry skin has less resilience and is more prone to wrinkling. Water is essential to maintain skin moisture and is the vehicle for delivering essential nutrients to the skin cells."

"The Least Expensive Anti-Aging Potion"

Mireille Guiliano is the 67-year-old author of French Women Don't Get Facelifts, a guide to the French way of aging stylishly,

Guiliano says,"Water is the least expensive anti-aging potion and the one medicine it is hard to overdose on. I drink a glass before going to bed and first thing when I get up, and as much as I can during the day. It maintains my skin’s moisture balance, moves essential nutrients through my organs and body, removes wastes and toxins, and helps to keep my cells hydrated and joints lubricated (and, oh, do we need that flexibility and mobility during the second half of our lives)."

Mireille Guiliano


From an article on heartmdinstitute.com titled "Why Water is Key for Anti-Aging," Dr. Sinatra lists these reasons water is essential:
  • Protects cardiovascular health
  • Is linked to pain relief
  • Keeps the brain in top working condition
  • Promotes detoxification
  • Facilitates weight loss

While health experts say it's not necessarily true that drinking water will make your skin more supple, it IS true that the outermost layer of your skin may feel rough if it doesn't contain enough water.

And with all the facts pointing to the importance of water in anti-aging, I think we have good enough reason to make drinking H20 a more prominent part of our lives.



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Monday, October 13, 2014

Gracefully Aging, Day 13: Blogs! 40+Style


Sylvia van der Logt, founder of 40+Style
When I first started searching on the internet, blogs about beauty and style seemed to be pretty much the domain of the very young.

That's definitely not so anymore.  I've found a host of blogs inspiring and informative when it comes to aging gracefully.  One of them is 40+Style.

This from the site:

"Our mission is to show you that you can look gorgeous and experiment with styles and fashion at any age. It’s all about having fun with style and fashion! Too often we get too worried about our wrinkled face, heavier bodies or loosening skin. Having fun with hair and makeup, fashion and new styles can help to make you look better, but also feel more confident and happy.

"Looking good and being stylish is not so much about money, the figure you have or how old you are. It’s about dressing to your strengths, knowing your body type, and knowing and embracing your unique style.

"We hope to help you in your quest to find your own style, dress to your strengths, look fabulous and embrace your age."

Actually not just a blog, it's a full-fledged website with everything from a shop, a forum, style courses, and a newsletter...which is basically how I connect with the site.

You can read more about the site's founder, Sylvia van de Logt, here.


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Sunday, October 12, 2014

Gracefully Aging, Day 12: Wise Words





"Beauty has no age"







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