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| I cherish any time I spend with my daughter and two sons, because they all live away from me |
"I love that my kids are all out of the house," said a friend to me recently. "When I clean something, it stays clean for a while. I can put something in the fridge that I want to have later and never come back to find it gone. My husband and I don't have to hide it when we want to be intimate. Honestly, when they come to stay for a while, I'm ready when it's time for them to leave!"
My friend just summed up some of the positive aspects of the empty nest...and there definitely are some! However, her kids all live either in the same town or just a couple of hours away.
Insert whine here. I live in Illinois, and all three of my grown children live in Texas.
My empty nest syndrome doesn't have anything to do with, say, not knowing who I am other than a parent, or not knowing what to do with myself. It just really boils down to MISSING MY KIDS!
Since it doesn't appear that my husband and I will be moving to Texas any time soon, I deal with the problem by going to visit them as often as I can, and having them visit me as often as they can.
I recently quit my part-time job so that I would be more free to take these trips to Texas, because all three of my grandchildren are there too...and I'm quite simply CRAZY about them. I'm still adjusting to the loss of income, and trying to expand my freelance voice-over career to make up for it.
To me, here are some of the disadvantages of the empty nest:
1) Too much alone time. My husband has a very busy job, and I often find myself alone. I try to deal with it by reaching out to friends and family members...walking with my sister-in-law, going out to lunch. And frankly, it doesn't hurt that I'm a voracious reader and can be content at almost any time and place with a book in my hand!
2) Feeling sorry for myself because my kids are so far away. I try to deal with this by being involved in other things, like my church's prayer chain, working out, tackling home projects I never had time for when I was working, etc.
3) Again, quite simply, just MISSING my children.
But, as my friend said, there are advantages! Remember how crazy busy you used to be as a mom? Driving kids to activities, cooking, cleaning up after them, doing laundry, packing lunches, the never-ending cycle of duties and chores?
Those duties have either disappeared or greatly diminished, and that can be very enjoyable.
I'm going to leave you with some quotes about the empty nest.
After the last child moved out, my husband said, "Do you realize we can make love every single day, even in the daytime, in every single room in the house?" I had one single thought.... I need to find a day job fast. -- Robin Fox
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Now that the kids have moved on, I have two unoccupied kids rooms in my house. I don't call them that, I prefer to call them rent-free storage facilities. I got two rooms full of two decades worth of stuff they insist they need until they have a bigger place of their own. Only thing missing are a few dead cats and then we could be on "Hoarders." -- Robin Fox
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If you are still in the process of raising children, be aware that the piles and piles of laundry will disappear all too soon and that you will, to your surprise, miss them profoundly. - Thomas Manson
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